I have always appreciated the fact that friends have said I am one of those moms that was brutally honest about what raising two toddlers is all about. I know at times when I tell stories of shenanigans that have went on in my home such as last night when K was doing his as we call it “shoulder shake” dance and we all laughed hysterically including S which is rare as the focus wasn’t her. Joe says “S why don’t you show us some of your dance moves?” S replies “Yes I can show you my booty dance?” She was 100% serious and Joe’s facial expression was 100% priceless with his response to S “those responses are one of the last things a father wants to hear from his daughter, I was thinking more like what moves you learned in ballet.” I mean most parents think this is funny within their home but more often I think especially us moms cringe at these type of statements thinking “ok that was funny at home but please never repeat it in public.” Kind of the embarrassment I had for a mom on a popular reality show on Sunday evening but my embarrassment wasn’t for the kid it was for the mom who encouraged her little girl to show how she twerked! I thought “our kids truly say and do the darndest things each day on their own why would a mother encourage her daughter to show off a dance that has received all types of criticism; mostly negative?” I enjoy all sides of raising my toddlers and I sometimes think sharing our embarrassing moments as well as all the bragging rights ones keep us real. Remember if you don’t share it they very likely will when you least expect it. I do have to venture out on my subject of being a “that mom” as this week I found myself in a different way feeling unsure or embarrassed of what my toddlers were going through.
Friday evening K woke scolding hot in the middle of the night. We immediately did what we remembered from when S had a fever as an infant as we frantically called my mom at two in the morning. Took him down to his diaper and used a cool cloth to try to break it. This went on for an hour and finally he started to cool but was still very warm. Saturday and Sunday brought a very needy two-year old but thankfully no more fever. Sunday evening at midnight S woke up exactly as K did Friday scolding hot. So round two of the cool cloth process. Going back an hour prior K woke up which lately he hasn’t been sleeping great. Monsters on the mind, weird car nightmares, or just wanting us. So he was in our bed already and wasn’t sleeping well. Tossing, turning and kept rubbing his hands together saying fire than waving and saying water. When not doing this he seemed to have restless legs which looking back wasn’t the case he was rubbing his feet together. S finally cooled down after a bit over an hour but she complained of a sore throat so I gave her Tylenol and had her try to get some sleep. She woke at six thirty not looking or feeling well. She was warm again, her temperature was lower at 101.6 and now said her stomach hurt very bad. We got in to the doctor first thing but as I was going only for S I for some reason cut K’s fingers and toes and noticed bumps all over his feet. I cancelled the sitter and added him to the visit. The doctor examined S thinking she had strep they did a test but it came back negative. Something was up, my outgoing, loving girl was laying in the stroller so tired and with a sore stomach and still a low fever. She examined K next. Well here we have it! K had bumps in his mouth including his throat and under his tongue as well as his hands and feet. As the doctor said the virus hand, foot and mouth I cringed. My mom ran a child development center and of all the stories it seemed a case of this when occurred was a nightmare. Immediately I asked how? What do we do? Can I catch? Then I was pissed thinking they must have caught when we had so many guests over the week prior. But quickly the doctor let me know that wasn’t likely as typically the fever comes within twenty-four hours of catching. Well we were only at a petting zoo the day prior? All we can do is keep them comfortable with Tylenol as well as a Mylanta/Benadryl mixture for mouth sores. Lastly, yes Joe and I can catch as well as other children so staying home not sharing for the week was so important. There of course were many other questions and thoughts but when we left I immediately felt embarrassed that my children had caught such a thing. I didn’t want to talk about as again that perception thing came out. But than Tuesday came and I thought this type of thing happens and as “that mom” that enjoys sharing the madness of her home this is just another one of those things. As a parent it is our job to protect these precious little humans but it’s also our job to educate each other so when it happens to someone else they don’t feel embarrassed as the other side to that is if you show you are embarrassed or worried about perception of something you truly had no control of what does that teach our little ones?
So I guess the reason behind me sharing about being “that mom” is more to say it’s ok to be whatever kind of mom you want as long as at the end of the day you had your little ones best interest in mind. We all have embarrassing moments or situations we wish never happened. If you choose to keep them within your family that is your choice and that is perfectly ok but I would encourage you if something does occur that you can share with others as it might help if they ever experience that you definitely do so.