That’s Fine…I just won’t play with you then!

Says the little girl who lives with us and loves to manage all things when it comes to playing!  If I hear this once in a day I’ve heard it twenty seven times from S to K.  Typically the poor little guy just wants to play with his diggers and dozers but S needs someone to play Barbie dolls with her right now!  She knows his sweet personality will give in if these words come out of her mouth!  I started today each time I hear this getting down to her level and asking her when her friends say this how does it make her feel. The response weather 7:30am or 5:00pm is the exact same…SAD. In turn how does she think K feels hearing this? EXACTLY!!! SAD in case you didn’t catch where I was heading!! Which honestly either I started tuning it out or really after we discussed it did subside…for at least a few hours.  Speaking of friends we have been hitting the books hard for a few weeks now! Lol!  Ok I’m still struggling to get out the door in a timely fashion for pre-k for S!

But school for S is going well I had a moment or twenty after I dropped her off today with her fresh wavy hair from braiding it wet before bed last night and little purple slippers at Montessori it’s what they do. Anyway, I realized how these two days a week are truly changing my little girl.  For one she has accepted that boys are actually ok to be friends with.  That using colors other than pink and purple are ok and those other colors can be really fun too!  If you get hurt yes it’s a big deal but if there’s no scratch or blood you are ok…ok after I wrote this one I realized that was likely Joe or I as she did get a pretty good rug burn today and I asked what did the teacher do…she said one asked what she could do to make it better if anything, S said she told her no then her other teacher asked if an Ariel freeze pack would help; which anything Ariel will make any problem better.  Independence has also been showing up and the good I still love you mom but I’m three and will get ready for bed by myself and when done put my clothes in the hamper independence!  Appreciating what those around do for her as tonight she went in the freezer to get a freeze pop and a glass mug fell out and shattered, after I swept it all up she said mom you really do a great job cleaning up messes I make!  The list goes on and yes cracks me up as some of these things I truly have struggled to do well.  I do think my personal wiring is still on corporate mode sometimes and as S comes home with these changes its making me realize there are so many great ways to handle situations and not everything has a direct, point-blank answer with toddlers.  With deep breaths I move onto naps!  Or the elimination of!


Since 615am at the latest was becoming S’s new wake up time I decided I had to take drastic measures! Lol! My only thought is she’s getting too much sleep between nap and night. So two weeks ago I held to my plan and cut out naps. By day three she was delirious and passed out five minutes in to quiet time! The days following waking up went from way early (for me) to between 730am and 830am! Yipee I don’t think I mentioned that on day four we went on a mini get away to a water park resort as the week before we had to cancel and reschedule our family Disney trip. So mom and I took the kids for a two night get away. More on that in a minute. Well this week has been going great. The past two mornings have been 7am which of course I’m hoping doesn’t stick but again anything is better than what we were at. I have done nap two times as she has been a mess and did I mention I have decided to move to a natural mood vitamin from prescription? More on this too but let’s say when the naps have happened it’s been necessary for both of us to be able to appreciate how wonderful our personalities are until dad arrives! So overall I’m very happy with my decision to take nap out of our routine for S. K still requires nap of some sort daily. On to our mini get away!

Well due to our businesses crazy busy schedule we decided to move our trip to Disney to January! Bummed at the time but then remembered its freezing here in January and S’s birthday is that month so it will be great! Anyway, giving the short version. Arrival day S and K thought that as we were getting ready to go to dinner they would check out the resort on their own leaving the room while I went to the bathroom and mom got her purse packed…Ten minutes later mom and I sweating, scared and angry these two were found giggling up a storm at the end of the hall.  I was so upset both the panic and fury type of upset. As my mom and I said if Joe was here this would not have even been a thought…you know that dad’s presence is enough to keep you scared and honest! That evening and the following days were much better sure we had our moments but reminding myself they are two and three helped with these!  I think the trip prepared us a bit more for our Disney trip and things I want to make sure I avoid.  Most important they are two and three keep it simple.  Doing every activity offered in the area is NOT necessary what is necessary is doing activities that are appropriate for the day. Like arrival day plan nothing but checking in to the resort and enjoying on property amenities. Try to do big activities every other day slipping in naps and low-key activities on the off days. Just these few things result in happy babies which I learned in San Diego a year ago but again only away two nights I wanted to do it all.  The I part was the problem.  I’m mom now it’s about what they can handle each day creating positive memories for all.


I have so much more to share from the shop to crafts to my decision to move off prescription mood changing meds and on to natural ones.  Please check back soon to hear all about!



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