To Be A Father

Well my title is a struggle because I am a female so I don’t know the challenges of being called dad,daddy,pops,father.  But I do know the genuine joy that is felt by being called Mom!

I think fathers or at least many fathers challenges are those of being a superhero! Having a wife and kids expect things from you including financially, emotionally, and physically is different then being a mom.  I should mention I say this from my perspective.  As personally I know mothers that are the only superhero in their kids lives.  Those moms I applaud daily.  I don’t know how I would do all the things that two toddlers throw at me in a day alone! So to you moms who are both roles awesome job!!

To those dads that choose to not be active in their kids lives I’m so sorry for you.  Such a loss it is for you.  Missing seeing a child to show you all the joys their life brings including first steps to becoming an incredible baseball player.  There’s even those times when they need their dad to help them as challenges arise for them as being a kid at times can be rough.  A dad’s perspective is sometimes different from mom’s.  Frankly, dad sees things differently then our mom’s like sports or learning to ride your bike.  Maybe it’s that physical aspect.  No doubt those father’s that have chosen to be transparent in their children’s life I’m sorry!  If you are reading this there’s no better time than the present to make a change.

Those dad’s that are rocking this whole daddy thing or at least giving it their all; hats off to you!  I grew up with my dad in my life and yes I have memories with mom but I have very specific memories with my dad.  Him calling my sister and I his pumpkins after kissing us goodnight.  Or he and I dancing in our living room to The Allman Brothers Band on Friday nights!  That embarrassing nickname he gave me but deep down loved that I had.  Dad’s just are different in their relationships with their kids.  Joe may not have nicknames for our kids yet but he always kisses our kids goodnight no matter how late he gets in.  He once a week surprises them with a special note and a donut for breakfast.  It’s the little things that kids remember.  Celebrating dad is such a great day that many times seems like it’s pushed to the wayside.  Not celebrated as Mother’s Day is.  Don’t know exactly why but I hope those of you out there made yesterday extra special for the man your kids call dad or the man you call dad.  As mom’s always seem to cover the big stuff but dad gets the joy of celebrating the small moments they create!

I hope all you Father’s out there had a great day!  As a mom and daughter I thank you for all you do!

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2 thoughts on “To Be A Father

  1. Queena? I remember he called you that before your personality even blossomed! I wonder if it the reason for your personality? LOL

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